I'm not a fan of resolutions.
Plenty of data shows they don't work well.
What does work better is taking a real, honest look at how you are showing up in your life and being responsible for what is working and what is not. Drop the judgement, we are all human, and that means we are imperfect. So, if you've been caught in that particular trap, go ahead, free yourself.
There are multiple layers to this process, here are a few steps.
What do you need in order to human better?
Yes, I used human as a verb, which is a bit cringey, but distinct from being a better human, which sounds like you're not good enough, and none of us need that voice in our heads.
Truly leading yourself requires going deep. It's the work. And it works because through awareness you set yourself up for new behaviors that have a foundation under them of why, not only how, and of real motivation not pseudo motivation based on "willpower" or other peoples standards.
Let's say you want to be less irritated with your family. Before you jump into the year with a new you, simply get clear and write down your reasoning. If the reasoning represents a high value for you ( such as, I want to be a loving person or I want to be closer with my kids), you've increased your chances of success because your why is clear and based on your values.
Next, feel and imagine yourself as that loving person. Research shows us that using mental imagery and emotions increases behavior change.
Last, add 1-2 new non-irritated, highly loving gestures into your day.
Try it out - give yourself an experiment for a few weeks of feeling, imagining, adding 1-2 new gestures, repeat, and see how it goes. Experiments are meant to be flawed, not perfect. Gather data on what worked, what didn't work.
Return to the question above, and answer, what else? Take yourself through this process. There is more you can do to build, strengthen and lead yourself, but this is a decent start.
As always, keep it simple, and contact me if you're interested in mindset work, leadership development, dropping the hustle, or simply finding more joy within.